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A Stoner Lady’s Guide to the Galaxy

A prompted journal for the girl who canoodles with marijuana. First thing is first, who are you without your titles?

If there is one thing that I know it is that titles are temporary. We use these things to introduce ourselves. Hi I’m Sarah, Mikey and Trixie’s MOM, Tommy’s WIFE, the facility’s SUPERSTAR, etc. See where I am going with this? But what happens when we are no longer in these roles? And what even is an identity without titles/roles?

That is where this journal starts, we can’t work on anything without knowing something about it first. This journal is about you. Get to know yourself. I bet you are pretty damn amazing.

In case you are wondering, no this is not just an edible-inspired enlightenment- I have formal training in psychology and philosophy. I have professional experience in drug addiction treatment. I have personal past experience in a substance abuse family dynamic without using a drug myself.

I’ve been people watching my entire life. I’ve studied the brain. I’ve worked in behavioral health. I understand and agree with my peers (at times) regarding how substances can cause harm - and how intention can change everything.

This isn’t “Dude, let’s numb out.”

This IS “Hey Sis, let’s regulate and reflect.”

I am writing this journal on personal reflection. One of my many talents is treatment plans. The issue is that treatment plans are focused on the individual. I need your input to make this work and be meaningful for everybody. I’ve included a very short question space below. I want to know about you. This is a conversation, not an obligation.

Thanks!- Sarah B

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A Stoner Lady’s Guide to the Galaxy

A Reflection Journal for Women Who are Told They Think Too Much & Feel Everything

A Stoner Lady’s Guide to the Galaxy isn’t about getting high.

It’s about getting honest.

This blog follows the journey behind my reflection journal — a space where cannabis, creativity, psychology, philosophy, and feminine power intersect. It’s for the women who overanalyze, overgive, overwork, and still somehow hold the universe together.

It’s for the woman who:

  • Has titles… but wants to know who she is without them.

  • Is exhausted, but still curious.

  • Smokes a joint and accidentally solves a life problem.

  • Laughs at her own chaos while actively trying to heal it.

This guide explores:

  • 🌌 Identity beyond roles (mother, wife, boss, artist)

  • 🧠 Nervous system awareness (fight, flight, freeze, and flow)

  • 💨 Altered states & mindfulness

  • 🎨 Creative regulation through art, doodles, and journaling

  • 🪐 Boundaries, burnout, and becoming feral in a healthy way

  • 💚 Using cannabis intentionally — not to escape, but to reflect

Each post breaks down journal prompts, personal stories, psychology concepts, and real-life reflections. It blends academic insight with lived experience — because healing can be both evidence-based and unhinged.

This isn’t toxic positivity.

This isn’t productivity culture.

This isn’t “just manifest it.”

This is:

Sit down.

Light it.

Tell the truth.

Write it out.

Welcome to the galaxy.